How I use AI at home, as a mom.

Where this started.

So last week I gave a talk in front of over 200 people, mostly men, about how I use AI in my business. And somebody asked me how I would describe the difference between how men and women create.

I said if I had to put it into one word, it would be flexibility. We are multitasking a million things at once. Most of us don't have eight hours a day to time block and work. Moms especially. I have had all of those time constraints myself, and I still do. Someone recorded the whole thing, it's here if you want to watch it.

And I think that is why so much of how I use AI has nothing to do with work. I have an agent on my team named Flint, and his whole job is my life. School, health, money, food. TikTok has started calling this a digital co-parent. Mine reads the school email and puts the dates on my calendar, which is a smaller job with a smaller name. But it takes a real piece of the mental load off, and I don't hear many people talking about it.

I'll go deep on a few and then rattle off the rest.

Processing my therapy.

This is how I got into AI in the first place. People ask me that a lot, and the answer is not a business answer.

I have an amazing therapist, and I have been in therapy pretty heavily for about three years. I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian cult, and there is a lot to rewire. A quick example is self-care. The way I was raised, taking care of yourself was selfish, especially as a woman. You serve men, you serve other people, you serve your kids, and you come absolutely last. I am still working on that one. Things like that take time to integrate.

My therapist is still my therapist. We all know why AI shouldn't be one. It will tell you what you want to hear. What I wanted was help with the six days in between sessions.

So I asked her if I could record and transcribe our sessions, and she said yes. I now have at least a year of them saved. I can look back and see how I've grown, which is kind of wild to read. And I can take what came up on Tuesday and keep working with it through the week.

The way I started doing that was through somatic journeys, which are basically guided meditations. I had just finished an inner voice facilitator training, and my therapist is a certified somatic facilitator too, so I would tell her what I was learning and she would say, yeah, that is what I learned in school. I would take a theme from a session and have my team help me shape a journey around it. Quieting the mind. Feeling an emotion physically in the body. Holding fear and joy at the same time and letting my nervous system know that is okay.

For a while I led a free one every week for my community, and a few of them are on my podcast. A Somatic Journey for Finding Peace in the Middle of Chaos and A Somatic Journey for When You're Overstimulated both came out of this.

Someone told me this is a very meta way to use AI. Maybe. But if I can make my nervous system a better place, I think it affects everybody around me.

If you want to try it. Ask your therapist first. Mine said yes, and some will say no, and that is theirs to decide. Then after a session, paste in the transcript or just your own notes and say:

Parenting.

I want to keep this part vague. My son and I have a little agent I've set up as Aunt Lumen. When he wants a really hilarious story told to him, we ask her. When he's struggling with something, I sit next to him and we talk to Aunt Lumen together, and she helps me explain a thing that feels like common sense to his brain.

We've made meditations together too. He picks a snake and an emotion, and we practice the breathing. It is not a high production value podcast. But I think what people want from a podcast lately is realness, and he is very real.

If you want to try it. Sit next to your kid, not across the room, and say:

School emails and the calendar.

It is so hard being a co-parent when you don't always know what happened at school.

So any email that comes from school, Flint saves into one running file of what is going on there. Dates go on my calendar. I am no longer forgetting about the random days when there is no school, and it feels like there are a lot of those.

That is the whole thing. It took no special skill to set up. It just means the information is in one place when I need it, and I show up to conversations about my son knowing what is going on.

If you want to try it. Forward or paste the school newsletter into Claude or ChatGPT and say:

If your AI is connected to your calendar, it can add them for you. If not, it takes two minutes to tap them in.

The pediatrician and the healthcare system.

Last week I took my son to the pediatrician. They talk fast. There is all sorts of information coming at you, and you are also parenting in that room.

So I started a voice note on my phone. When I got home I had my team clean it up, remind me exactly what was said, and hold on to it so I don't forget to schedule the referral we were given. All the details and the resources his pediatrician mentioned were there when I went looking.

It lets me fiercely advocate for my son. I am really grateful for that.

I'll say this part too. Getting on Medicaid in the first place was so hard. I think most moms who are struggling financially run into this. The system makes it hard to figure out where to start or how to apply, and on top of that I felt a decent amount of shame. I can't believe I'm in this place. But having Medicaid for me and my son has been life-changing. I can get an urgent care appointment when we need one. If you know a woman who is stuck there, send her my way. I would love to help.

If you want to try it. Ask the doctor if you can record so you can remember everything. Then:

That last line matters. It is a transcript, and it can mishear. Anything medical, I confirm with the office.

The rest, quickly.

Protecting my nervous system. There is one person whose emails I know will activate me. So my team reads those first and helps me figure out how to respond. I can always go read the original. I am still making every decision. I just don't need to take every message in with my own eyes the second it lands. I have a client who does this now. When she gets a stressful email from a coworker, she has Claude read it first and help her reply.

Taxes. I have an LLC, and taxes always felt daunting. I use TurboTax, and I have Claude look over my shoulder as a sounding board while I go. It is a second set of eyes, and the filing is still mine.

Cooking. I love to cook. My favorite thing is taking whatever is left in the fridge and making something I've never made. Now I describe what sounds good, take a picture of the fridge and the pantry, and get a recipe that walks me through it like I have a private chef.

Around the 4th of July I wanted to recreate the Date Night Burger from Southern Sun here in Colorado. Dates, jalapeño, bacon, goat cheese. I described it, got a recipe, and then made it mine. Brioche pretzel buns from Trader Joe's, sweet chili sauce, and mint and basil from my little herb garden. I think mine was better, for me anyway.

Where I'd start.

Pick the one that made your shoulders drop when you read it. For most moms I talk to, it is the school email one. Do it once this week and see how it feels.